I’m updating this welcome page, 30 July 2015, as so much has changed and evolved since I first wrote this introduction to myself.
Firstly, my experiences within porn have been so much more broad-ranging and diverse than when I first started blogging three years ago.
Secondly, I’m doing what is so rarely possible in the porn world. I’ve fallen head over heels with the amazing man mentioned in the original text of this introduction, the tremendously sexy TitanMen exclusive Jesse Jackman. We’ve gone from in-the-honeymoon boyfriends to domestic partners and fiancés, and to our surprise, our popularity just as a visible gay couple has given us the opportunity to voice some views and opinions about the state of porn, of gay men, on relationships, on gay health, and on our general well-being. That just putting ourselves out there would offer us this soapbox over other far more active and public pornstars surprises even us. With that power comes great responsibility, of course. So I’m trying to keep it classy here.
Most of you are already aware that Jesse is far more prolific a blogger than I am, and that news of us is most readily available on his blog at www.JesseJackman.xxx. I keep promising to write more here; please be patient with me; I do try to share at least the interesting things and spare you the mundanities of my life. So hopefully I keep this moderately thought provoking and preferably somewhat entertaining. Let me know how I’m doing?
Repeating myself from three years ago, welcome to the official Dirk Caber blog. Should be a wild ride!
Original Text, 3 April 2012
I wasn’t going to be another porn blogger who merely reposted reviews and nekkid pics; there are a world of guys already out there who do that, and do it better than I would. However, after ages of attempted gangpressings to get me to join the blogosphere, I’m capitulating. This is largely in observance of three related events.
The first and most distant is that about eight years ago after a rough breakup I hooked up with a sexy daddy in New York City who goes by the handle JoeyRope; he was the first man to give me my first taste of kinkier sex, S/M in general, and bondage by a man who knows what he’s doing. I was hooked. He connected me with GMSMA (Gay Men’s S/M Association, sadly now defunct), which offered classes and tutorings and experiences; I learned from the best in NYC, and I started making connections and friends nationwide, learning all the time. That autumn JoeyRope and his partner invited me to Berlin to Folsom Europe with them, my first “leather” event; friends were made, experiences had, things learned, new horizons seen, and I knew that I’d found an aspect of my life that was supposed to be a part of me.
The second is that it was roughly two years ago that one of these friends, Paul Wilde at Titan, after many months of saying that Titan was looking for dom tops with real S/M skills and looked the part convinced me to give porn a try. I agreed, figuring they might hire me for one or two; the studio would find someone younger, leaner, more hung, something… and that would be that. And I’d have been fine with that, actually. However, after making nine films with Titan alone (and two more forthcoming, plus five with Michael Lucas, one with Raging Stallion, and various online scenes…), it’s really hit home that this is going to be a happy part of my life for a while, that I’m really enjoying the work I’m doing here, that I’ve made some great close friends, that it’s given me some new motivation and confidence in my outside-the-studio life.
The third and most immediately palpable is that about six months ago while working at the Titan booth at Folsom I met one of my colleagues, a truly amazing man whose huge heart, monstrous cock, and amazingly devious filthy mind I’m just head over heels (okay, more often heels over head) in love with. Jesse Jackman has ever since rocked my world and wrecked my prostate (at least twice a day on average when we’re together — yeah, I keep going back for more!), and I hope and expect that that’ll continue for decades to come.
Because of these I’ve been thinking more about what being in porn has brought to my life, and I’m realizing that I may indeed have something novel and individual to contribute to the babel-dialogue going on out there. Maybe someone might even read it, LOL.That doesn’t mean for a minute I’m going to be above posting hot photos or encouraging you to check out new releases or (maybe) posting some of our personal home movies. If the interspersed rants, bits of half-thought-out philosophy, puns, news, or links to the bizarre music I love don’t interest you, do what you would with any porn during the talky bits: hit fast forward. I’ll be the first to say I can’t expect myself to be any better a blogger than I am an actor, LOL. Trust me, it’s never long before all topics revert back around to hot men and deep intense fucking!
And guys, feel free to respond to anything I post here. I love it when I push a guy’s buttons and he pushes back!
Welcome to the official Dirk Caber blog. Should be a wild ride!