About this Blog

Welcome.

I wasn’t going to be another porn blogger who merely reposted reviews and nekkid pics; there are a world of guys already out there who do that, and do it better than I would. However, after ages of attempted gangpressings to get me to join the blogosphere, I’m capitulating. This is largely in observance of three related events.

The first and most distant is that about eight years ago after a rough breakup I hooked up with a sexy daddy in New York City who goes by the handle JoeyRope; he was the first man to give me my first taste of kinkier sex, S/M in general, and bondage by a man who knows what he’s doing. I was hooked. He connected me with GMSMA (Gay Men’s S/M Association, sadly now defunct), which offered classes and tutorings and experiences; I learned from the best in NYC, and I started making connections and friends nationwide, learning all the time. That autumn JoeyRope and his partner invited me to Berlin to Folsom Europe with them, my first “leather” event; friends were made, experiences had, things learned, new horizons seen, and I knew that I’d found an aspect of my life that was supposed to be a part of me.

The second is that it was roughly two years ago that one of these friends, Paul Wilde at Titan, after many months of saying that Titan was looking for dom tops with real S/M skills and looked the part convinced me to give porn a try. I agreed, figuring they might hire me for one or two; the studio would find someone younger, leaner, more hung, something… and that would be that. And I’d have been fine with that, actually. However, after making nine films with Titan alone (and two more forthcoming, plus five with Michael Lucas, one with Raging Stallion, and various online scenes…), it’s really hit home that this is going to be a happy part of my life for a while, that I’m really enjoying the work I’m doing here, that I’ve made some great close friends, that it’s given me some new motivation and confidence in my outside-the-studio life.

The third and most immediately palpable is that about six months ago while working at the Titan booth at Folsom I met one of my colleagues, a truly amazing man whose huge heart, monstrous cock, and amazingly devious filthy mind I’m just head over heels (okay, more often heels over head) in love with. Jesse Jackman has ever since rocked my world and wrecked my prostate (at least twice a day on average when we’re together — yeah, I keep going back for more!), and I hope and expect that that’ll continue for decades to come.

Because of these I’ve been thinking more about what being in porn has brought to my life, and I’m realizing that I may indeed have something novel and individual to contribute to the babel-dialogue going on out there. Maybe someone might even read it, LOL.That doesn’t mean for a minute I’m going to be above posting hot photos or encouraging you to check out new releases or (maybe) posting some of our personal home movies. If the interspersed rants, bits of half-thought-out philosophy, puns, news, or links to the bizarre music I love don’t interest you, do what you would with any porn during the talky bits: hit fast forward. I’ll be the first to say I can’t expect myself to be any better a blogger than I am an actor, LOL. Trust me, it’s never long before all topics revert back around to hot men and deep intense fucking!

And guys, feel free to respond to anything I post here. I love it when I push a guy’s buttons and he pushes back!

Welcome to the official Dirk Caber blog. Should be a wild ride!

99 comments

  1. frank says:

    Hello Mr. Caber:
    I have enjoyed your appearances in the dvds.

    I would like to praise you in the two scenes in the Titan dvd entitled
    ” Jury Duty”. The pairing of you and Roman Wright was very intense,
    passionate and erotic. I could really see what passion both of you had
    with each other.

    I also like the fact that you don’t shave your body hair. That is an excellent
    trait and I hope you maintain the hair. It’s a complete turnon to see a hairy
    and masculine man, in comparison to a smooth and young twink.

    Thanks again for providing excellent performances in your films. I look
    forward to viewing future projects. By the way, could you please keep me
    posted on your future films?

    Thank you,

    Frank
    email address:
    manfromdm2@yahoo.com

  2. Mark says:

    I just had visited with an old NYC friend of mine, John L., who mentioned walking past Kink.com today and thinking of you. He told me about your dual careers, so naturally I had to look you up, and you are indeed as handsome as he said. And, from what I’ve read so far of your blog, as intelligent – always a heady combination!

  3. Angel says:

    Felicitaciones por tan excelente actuacion en sus peliculas y videos….realmente los disfruto…para usted Sr. Caber, le deseo el mayor de los exitos en su carrera.

    Abrazos desde Venezuela,

    Angel

  4. Dirk says:

    Hot Greeting from German!

  5. tobi says:

    Dirk, reading your blog and listening to your comments in the clips i consider you a very genuine, open guy, a very human and intelligent person. Thanks for bein’ here in contact with us on www

  6. Bryan says:

    Dear Dirk,

    I’ve only recently discovered your blog, but I’m a fan of your work, and your positive portrayal within whatever role you assume in your sexual escapades on film. You take pride in what you do, and that comes through so vividly!

    I have to admit, though, that I particularly enjoyed your scene for BoundJocks, as you were bound, helpless, nipples clamped, balls stretched, and hard as a rock – just as I want you in my fantasy! LOL The only thing that would have made that scene hotter would have been “mystery hands” (an unseen figure except for the hands) stimulating your erogenous zones, making you ache to cum, but delaying that outcome, prolonging your ecstasy, and allowing all those watching to drink in your masculine energy and potency. That shoot certainly got my juices flowing!

    So thank you, again, for being the man you are, and allowing us to share in your sexuality.

    Cheers,

    Bryan

  7. Jared says:

    Hi, Dirk. Just discovered your blog and several more films with which I had not been familiar. HOT! And what makes you even hotter is your lucid, heartfelt, thoughtful blog. Your most recent post on how you transformed yourself, inside and outside, to become who you are today was simultaneously provocative and inspirational. Thank you. Jared

  8. RenanPoA says:

    Love Your scenes And have a good surprise about Your Life. Congratulations !

  9. I just read your bio and love it! As well as your Energy, and you are such a lovely person. Thanks for a great blog. I look forward to catching up on older posts.

  10. mike says:

    In recently viewing the Titan dvd in which you are featured in a scene with
    Jesse Jackman, I found it to be very passionate. Both of you certainly displayed
    your intensity and chemistry.
    Question: I seem to observe that in the majority of your films, that you often
    let out with constant bursts of laughter during your scenes with your partners.
    It’s too bad that this happens, as it is a detriment.
    Other than that, your scenes in your films have been exceptional. It would be
    great to see you paired with Brad Kalvo and Allen Silver.

  11. ²marc says:

    dirk …
    jesus you are the man of my dreams ! haha a guy can dream can’t I … :)
    already have a great “dirk caber dvd and photo collection” … you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it !
    I have a big favour to ask … I used to be a swimmer and got paralised because of a diving accident so live goes in in a wheelchair :) but don’t worry even in a wheelchair live can be great !
    my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign …
    can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day !
    have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha
    all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future !
    x marc

  12. marc says:

    dirk …
    you are the man of my dreams ! haha a guy can dream can’t I … :)
    already have a great “dirk caber dvd and photo collection” … you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it !
    I have a big favour to ask …
    my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign …
    can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day !
    have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha
    all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future !
    x marc

  13. marc says:

    dirk … we mailed in the past and I was not very kind to you … was going throug a very hard period in my life anbd got mad at everything and everyone, is not an excuse to make me look good again but is it’s true and honest … due to an accident I have to spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair … ring a bell ? … I do appologize for that … I was wrong, very very wrong ! hope you except my sorry ! perhaps you do not even remember but if you do … please forgive me ! really hope to add your signed photo’s to my collection and if you do not want to have any further contact with me than I understand and I will reamin a very big fan of you ! all the best, lots of succes and I hope to hear fgrolm you afterall … x marc

  14. marc says:

    dirk … you are the man of my dreams ! haha a guy can dream can’t I … already have a great “dirk caber dvd and photo collection” … you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it ! I have a big favour to ask … my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign … can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day ! have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future ! x marc

  15. marc says:

    dirk … we mailed in the past and I was not very kind to you … was going throug a very hard period in my life anbd got mad at everything and everyone, is not an excuse to make me look good again but is it’s true and honest … due to an accident I have to spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair … ring a bell ? … I do appologize for that … I was wrong, very very wrong ! hope you except my sorry ! perhaps you do not even remember but if you do … please forgive me ! really hope to add your signed photo’s to my collection and if you do not want to have any further contact with me than I understand and I will reamin a very big fan of you ! you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it ! I have a big favour to ask … my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign … can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day ! have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future ! x marc

  16. Keith Brooker says:

    Hi Jesse

    You sent me a message in the past 2 days, but while I was reading it in bed, I must have hit the wrong key, as it disappeared. Try as I might, I can’t find it again. It related to my observation that it seems impossible on Facebook, to post you a Friends Request, but also that I enjoyed your performance at the Eagle, London several weeks ago.

    Keith

  17. Fred Nutter says:

    I kept noticing you on the web. I find you even more exciting now I know you play the ophicleide! Perhaps you should persuade one of the studios to make a porn musical. Would be better if you played slide trombone.

  18. Rob says:

    I think we might have met at a GMSMA or CHC function.
    I like seeing your work but for a less than usual reason. It was your first Kink video when you torturing the bottom’s tit’s. You had your foot against his chest. You have this casual looking sadistic smile that told me that you have bottom experience and know just how to make that experience work to fuck a guy over.

    I hope I meet you again someday.

    Rob

  19. David says:

    Hi Dirk! I admire your comments and thoughts in life … I congratulate you for the great person you are .. I hope you never give up, and you can go ahead and be successful in your life … I love you so much Dirk, you’re a beautiful person … Greetings from Argentina! =)

  20. AJ says:

    Hey Dirk,
    Damn Skippy, My husband and I have spilled so much seed watching your work.!!! Thank you. What I like most, and that makes you different, is that hot smile of yours.!!! No matter how intense the scene is, and they are intense, you look like you’re having such a good time. Giving it or taking it you let the pleasure shine through. Keep up the good work. AJ

  21. Rodney says:

    Only met the leather and bear community a couple summers ago after the end of a 13 year relationship to the male co-parent of our two children. LOVE what I am learning and seeing, the camaraderie of it all. Great guys and enjoying the sweat, cum and piss of our community.

    Also, I see that it does not define us. We are so much more than our fetish and fur.

    I am enjoying your blog, especially the new post about your musical background. Thank you for sharing.

  22. Will says:

    Dear Dirk,

    I am a new fan. I especially like your Bound videos. I hope you do more. I would like to see Van and his crew sounding you or using electricity.
    I am 61 years old and a few months ago the love of my life Tommy ( who was 41) committed suicide.
    You have taken my mind off my sorrow. Watching you is very enjoyable to me.
    You and Jesse are very lucky to have each other.
    I enjoyed the new blog listing about the music.

    Thank you again,

    WILL XOXOX

  23. Jeremy Barcan says:

    I enjoyed reading your comments about Samuel Barber. I admire his music a lot. Being an opera fan, I am particularly drawn to his opera “Vanessa” which is as veiled gay story when you come to think about it.

    Generally speaking, what would American classical music look like without all of its 20th century gay composers and musicians; Bernstein, Copland, Barber, Menotti, Corlgliano, Adamo, Tilson-Thomas, Cole Porter, Sondheim, to name but the most famous of them.

    I hope to read on your blog more about your thoughts on the classical (and popular) music scene.

    It is so wonderful to know that you are more than just another gorgeous face and body and that your mind and soul can be in as a great a shape as your body is.

  24. Noor says:

    Hi Dirk,
    Just a line to say that I recently saw a scene that you did with Tony Orion.
    HOT!! – Absolutely HOT!!

  25. LeechyNUT Haven *yes, real name says:

    I haven’t seen any of your movies. Yet. From what I have viewed – you fit the bill quite nicely, as to my preferences, etc. Love the fact that you laugh a lot during shooting – showing you’re having a nice time! (love that, to reiterate LOL). I’m interested in your music – can’t seem to find a link to stuff you’ve authored. Yet. Thanks for your work – look forward to seeing you (uh) in the movies, magazines and media digest able. Thanks for your words – a true joy to behold, given past run-ins with other *stars*, those sadly bereft of genuine thoughts/full of self-aggrandizing witless promotion.
    Again, thank you. To shake your hand t’would be honored. To shake anything else t’would be a surprise. LOL
    L.H.

  26. Albert says:

    Mr. Caber, I have a crush on you. :) I love your soft sex videos and I love you.

    Had to say it. :) Any response from you will make me very happy!

  27. Hans says:

    Dear Dirk,

    as all others says it before: You are simply great! In more than just one way ;-)
    I really enjoy every video with you.
    I was wondering if i may ask you something.
    In my opinion you have absolutely the most perfect chest/soulder i haveever seen :-)
    So here’s my question:
    What do you do for workout?
    I work hard on my body and hopefully – somedays – i look more like you ;-)

    Big greetiings from germany,
    Hans

  28. HS says:

    Hi, I’m your fun and have bought your dozens of clips.
    Your tickled scene in Men On Edges.com is perfect, the best I’ve ever!!

    I really wanna your naked x-bound merciless tickled scene hopefully after cum-shot!
    I really your tickled scene again, that’s my dream

  29. ben says:

    I love your big smile as you fuck the big guys.

  30. greg says:

    Your performance and appearance in the movie ‘Hung Jury’ was your very best.
    You looked clean shaven and appealing. Then, your concurrent dvds slowly
    showed a somewhat disappointing decline in your appearance, that being
    scruffy and unkempt. And, your laughter in your sex scenes is very annoying
    and unnecessary.
    These are just my own opinions, providing constructive suggestions for your
    future appearances., as it is no longer a pleasure watching you.

    • Dirk says:

      Always great to have feedback. I know Jury Duty (not “Hung Jury”, as good a title as that might have been as well) is a popular film with many of my fans, but consensus on my appearance is that I should keep the beard, and for every comment I receive complaining about my laugh or my vocalizations, I have dozens who appreciate and find hot my vocal expressions of how much fun I’m actually having. If the beard didn’t have a business-confirmed appeal, directors would ask me to shave (as they did for Jury Duty) or studios wouldn’t continue to hire me; if the laughter was a problem, directors have no difficulty asking stars to refrain, and there are editors in post-production whose job is to scrub out undesirable noises (and there are lots that happen on set beyond my chortling). This is why there are hundreds of porn stars out there of all builds and behaviors; different strokes for different folks. That my “daddyish” appearance doesn’t appeal to you doesn’t indicate a decline in my skills or personal physical maintenance, but simply that your tastes follow a different vein.

      • Nunes says:

        Hello Dirk, im from Brazil, and i want to know how function your days workout and your alimentation !

      • Ron Israel says:

        I find your daddyish look and your laughter very sexy ;-)
        comes from a 25 years old model from Israel !

        keep it up and know you have fans all over that side of the world!

        i’m in the US a lot for photo shoots so could be nice to have fun with my favorite porn star ! haha

      • Tony says:

        Great response Dirk, and might I say that I simply do not understand why someone would come onto your blog site merely to criticise the brilliant performances you put on. I’m a huge fan, and I will never get sick of watching my favourite built, bearded sexy daddy. Anything coming in the pipeline?

  31. Carl Mayfield says:

    Dear Dirk, First let me start by saying I find you to be the most interesting and talented man in the adult film industry. Thank you for the countless hours of entertainment, fantasy and training your talents bring. You Dirk, beyond a doubt are the sexiest man making films today. I as many would love to know more about you and what makes you tic! Thank you and may you continue to find success and may your personal love relationship grow and prosper …. Blessings …Carl

  32. alternat says:

    i simply admire you Dirk :)

  33. Victor says:

    Several weeks ago your hubby shared a link to one of your musical pieces (Ecologue No.6) and it was gorgeous! I think my accompanist would really enjoy it, even just to play for herself. Plus,the poor woman has spent months rehearsing showtunes with me, she needs a break.
    Is there any way to get the sheet music for that piece? Do you sell sheet music?
    Victor

    • Dirk says:

      Eclogue #6 is still only in manuscript; I’ve never engraved it. I’ve also never made a piano transcription; it only exists as a chamber orchestra work. How’s your friend’s ability to read orchestra scores at the keyboard?

      • Victor says:

        Her sight-reading is amazing. Her ability to play for a non-music-reading/non-counting soloist is nearly unparalled. I just think that piece would a) speak to her soul and b) be a nice break after spending a few months doing showtune accompaniment for me. Plus, she’s the district music teacher so she needs a break just to play something beautiful for herself.
        I’ll try to sneak the real answers out of her.
        Thanks so much for your time!
        V

  34. Victor says:

    Dear Dirk!

    The first time I saw you on film I was hooked! So handsome, so sexy and you turn me on like no ones business. You have been a fantasy of mine for a while! I just wish there were some way to make my dreams a reality! The ultimate would be a threesome with you and Rocco Steele! A night to remember!

    Best of everything to you and your man!

  35. D Wolfe says:

    The reason I made a point to look you up after seeing you in an array of floating Tumblr GIFs is honestly the fact that I can count on your smile. You’re one of the rare performers that actually look like they’re truly enjoying themselves. Thank you for such great work. Keep on smiling! :)

  36. Dan says:

    Love you I would like to hang out with you sometimes.

  37. Afiq says:

    I would like you to be my “DAD”…

  38. Medusa says:

    Hello Dirk,

    You are absolutely fantastic. Have watched all of your videos. They are what most of my hardons in the past few years and violent orgasms are made of. Lol.
    Are you planning a video with Michael Lucas? Hope it’s not absurd to ask such things over here. But genuinely interested to know. :)
    Your Stepfather’s Secret series is mind blowing.
    Do continue to keep us all on our toes and then some.
    Take care and all the very best to you.
    Do let me know if you are in Singapore someday. Would love to meet!

    Rgds,

    • Dirk says:

      Alas, as Michael Lucas has started producing bareback content, I won’t be making any more films with him. There are five titles in his catalog with me in them already, though. =]

  39. Mohammad says:

    I love you with all my heart and more I feel I want to give you my life if I could
    My name is Mohammed and I tend to men and I live in Saudi Arabia and I am jealous of you because you live in a state that respects the rights and give you the right to live as you like not like here in Saudi Arabia people despise who like us because they see us in terms of intolerance and tribes, and also look harshly to who like us…
    I feel you are lucky yes very lucky because you can spend the rest of your life with the one you love not like me have relationship with the men in the shadows or behind doors
    I wish you to become my friend, and more considered me like your brother please please I hope to see you and hold you to my chest with all my heart I wish this happen cause i want to tell how much i got heart from the people here
    my misery start Before nine months from now it began when i met omer he is 39 years old and we liked each other and start dating and with time i become love him and sleep with him sometimes and one day i came with him to his flat as usually and he fuck me and suddenly clergy break down the door but i could it run from them and installed my car and drove at high speed to escape from them and because i was very scared I could not concentrate and lost control and fell from the hill and didn’t know what happened to me
    When I woke up i found myself in the hospital, and I understood that the clerics told my brothers what had happened everything about me and omer
    Damn them
    my brothers were very angry and call me that day with dirty name and not only they took me out of the hospital on their responsibility although i had a neck injury and wear neck collar they did not feel pity for me they wish me death because of the shame i had caused and made me locked in the house for a month and a half until my condition become worse… they want to punish me because of my desire towards men
    after my condition become worse they took me to the hospital and their i had operation and the results i lost 50% of the movement in my neck all this because i didn’t kill or steal or i just have relationship with men!!!
    These things always occur in Saudi Arabia we do not have the rights of a man everything back to tribal customs and traditions stupid
    can you believe no one came and ask me to forgive they hate and wish if i dead in the accident
    please help me if you care
    Mohammad

    • RD says:

      I am pretty sure that I saw you at the gym in the locker room, and you smiled and said hi. I said hi back…and I did not realize why you looked so familiar, and then I realized it was you in some of the hot porn videos that I would watch sometimes! You and Jesse are smoking hot. Next time I see you, I will say hi again…if appropriate! ;)

        • RD says:

          Mission accomplished! I saw you again today, and passed by you and then realized I didn’t say Hi, so I went back to you to say hi but you looked so sweaty and that you were about to take a shower. I also said that you were great in Stepfather, and was delighted when you responded by saying thank you with a smile.

          I will try not to be shy or nervous next time I see you at the gym! :)

    • Luca says:

      Mohammed

      I’m not Dirk but I just wanted to share my thoughts with ya.

      I live in Germany and here exists homophobia, of course, but we in Germany got lucky that we just don’t have such harsh rules, such bloody laws and that we don’t, well most people don’t do it, follow the sentence from a book. A book which had been written by some jerks just to have a chance to manipulate the manking (These are just my thoughts..)

      Saudi Arabia would be a choice for travel for me but since there such laws, such crazy homophobia, I just don’t want to risk my life.

      It is so sad that Gays aren’t given the chance to live like they feel to, like they were born to.

      I wish that you will get the chance to escape from that currently terrible country and that you can live in the States, in Germany or where you want to live like you feel.

      Wish you the best and don’t lose hope!

      xoxo
      Luca

  40. Li Yong says:

    Dirk caber – the one I love most, he always gives me strength, I pray God to bless the people I love Dirk caber, healthy and happy! Happiness! Bless him all the better! God bless you!
    Love you people from all over the world! I come from China! This year 22 years old, how to want to call you daddy! You are my heart’s father! Always in my heart!

    i love you dirk daddy !

  41. Luca says:

    Dear Dirk

    I’m in love with your movies. They’re the totally great. Also, you are the first Star I am writing to. :)

    I liked to read what you wrote about yourself. It makes me feel that you liked to tell us something really about you and not something the fanbase may want to hear.

    So, please enjoy your job, all your partners and have fun!

    Wish you all the best and of course merry christmas with your loved ones!

    xoxoxo

    Luca, italian from germany

  42. Mark says:

    Hey Dirk!
    Recently discovered the blog site. You are one very hot sexy man!! I’m an actor too and would like to be more involved in staged readings and stage performances and also get into porn either on camera or behind the scenes. Any advice?
    Do you ever get to Phoenix, AZ. Would be great to meet!
    Any chance of getting an autographed picture?
    Thanks and Happy Holidays!
    Mark

  43. Berlinhunkhunter says:

    Hey Dirk!
    Lovely to run into you site ;-) you know, we met in berlin a few weeks ago, at the splendid little private gym you use when you are in town; around the gay area there. We had a nice chat about Tuba and classical music… But your chest and arms impressed me even more ;-) I was that blond slim guy, too embarrassed by your hunkiness to ask you out. next time, let me take you out for drinks, okay!
    Andi

  44. Bob says:

    You must be exhausted.

  45. Stephen says:

    I have to tell you that I came across your blog because I was googling you. After seeing you in a move I just had to know how old you are. That’s probably creepy sounding but if it helps, I never found out. Anyway, at the risk of sounding like a condescending ass hole, I am really glad I found your blog because it’s really helped correct some of the sweeping generalizations I had internalized about adult film actors. It’s not that I thought they were unintelligent or unskilled but in the back of my mind was always the thought that if these guys (and gals) could do anything else, then they would. And it’s really difficult to hold onto those misconceptions when I read your blog and see how incredibly talented, articulate, and intelligent you seem to be. Did I mention talented? After checking out Jesse Jackman’s blog, I stalked your soundcloud… So, I guess I just wanted to say thank you. Reading how eloquently you write and also how you describe your work has helped me not only think differently about the guys I beat off watching, but also has helped begin to peal back some of the shame and inhibitions I have regarding my own sex life and sexual expression. So, again, thanks for being you. I am a fan.
    XOXO

    • Dirk says:

      Hey, Stephan! THANK YOU for writing this! One of the things Jesse and i are eager to convey is that the vast majority of us who do porn have vibrant lives elsewhere, and that porn is just fun and maybe some extra cash on the side. In other words, most porn guys (and gals, evidently, though I’ll admit I’ve far more limited experience with them) do this because WE WANT TO. Further, its not so much that we need to prove that point to the world, but there are younger, greener guys coming to the industry with an overlapping set of misconceptions to yours, who either leave the industry disappointed, or who have to tell the world how horrible their experiences are. The outside world hears that and says “See? We were right!”, and these stereotypes get perpetuated. Its hurtful for pornstars, its hurtful to gay men in general, and its hurtful to society at large… So it means a ton to get a note like this. Again, thank you!

      And I’m 43. ;-)

  46. werry says:

    Dear Dirk, your face, your voice… you are great!! Greetings from Italy, i wish you just the best!!!

  47. SIR Dieter says:

    heißer, geiler Typ

  48. werry says:

    Dear Dirk. Sorry, my english is not werry good, i speak german and italian… I have a Question: it is possible to see you somewhere in Europa, live? You are doing Liveshows in clubs? If yes, where and when?

    Werry

  49. James says:

    I’m impressed with how much attention you’ve been able to draw to the PrEP issue on your blog. I’m with the HIV/AIDS channel of About.com and noticed in our metrics that you’ve driven a significant number of eyes to our About.com article on the subject. Good work, many thanks, and continued good health!

    • Dirk says:

      My pleasure! Im still amazed at how manyfolks don’t know about the PEP/PrEP options, or are completely misinformed about them. The more good info, the better!

  50. Jason Storm says:

    Dirk, you are ny all time favorite gay male performer! Your body is perfect, you have the most sexy smile and truly soulful eyes! I would like an autographed photo of you to hang in my bedroom. How does one request one from you?

  51. Keshon says:

    Mr.Caber, I was wondering if you would like to audition for my movie…..Please reply your answer by email…khop923978@gmail.com

  52. James W says:

    Are you still performing this Saturday in F.C.?
    I am flying in to Denver for the performance.
    But I know with weather on east coast, things can change.

    Thanks,

    James

  53. James W says:

    Is your performance still this Saturday in F. C.
    I am flying in to Denver for the concert.
    With east coast weather, I didn’t know if your travel was altered.

    Thanks,

    James

  54. Gulichi says:

    My love,

    you know what?

    I’m gonna study harder, get a great job, make a lot of money,
    and buy you forever!!

  55. john says:

    Hi dirk! I’m in my twenties and in the culture i leave in i need to get married but I’m fully SSA and I’m not sure i want to get married and struggle with my ssa. I’m also not sure about living any other kind of life style ether mostly because i know that ssa marriage don’t hold long and generally speaking that kind of life style is not so committed. .. (i know because i did some researching about it and also heard from the very few people i know that have experience it- and yes I’m aware that they have a propaganda…) so because i consider you as a good and serious guy I’ll be happy to know what you have to say about it… and if you have any other insights that will help me make my way in the world (if I’m going to go on the ssa life style I’m going to have to move elsewhere to do so. ..
    Thanks in advance. ..

    • Dirk says:

      My response is this. IF a SSA couple is incapable of committed relationahip, it is ONLY because they have been told by NON-SSA people they are incapable and they believe it. I know gay and lesbian couples who have been FAR more stable than many straight couples, often with much more diversity in how their relationships work. Don’l let people who don’t know what they’re talking about tell you you can’t be happy.

  56. john says:

    Hi dirk! Hope you’re doing good!
    I wanted to consult with you about a struggle that i have. I’m in my early twenties and in the culture i leave in i need to get married (OSA marriage) and i can’t live ssa life style if i chose to stay in it, so I’m debating what to do because i also read in some researchers that ssa life style is not committed, meaning that the ssa marriage doesn’t hold long etc. I don’t know what to do, i don’t what to leave Avery thing and leave in a foreign country in order to leave my way and i also don’t want to leave my current life style, so I’m struggling about it and since you seem to me like a good and serious guy i want to hear your opinion and insights about my situation.
    Thanks in advance. ..

  57. Alex H says:

    Dirk, I recently discovered you and I must say I’m in love with you.
    I like everything of you, you’re quite my ideal kind of man and I’m so glad to discover on this blog you’re also an interesting person with many passions and skills.

    I found irresistible the way you smile and have fun during your sex performances, it’s something very special since other pornstars seem to take themselves so seriously.

    I also like the way you write, you have a gentleman language, so rare to find.

    I sincerely admire you.
    Keep going!
    All the best.

    Alex

  58. jockeyornothing says:

    Hey there! I’m a big fan of your videos. And I just have a request, Could you please do another scene with Josh West ( not that the one you’ve done is not awesome, it is) but it’s just that I think you two guys look really hot together.

    • Dirk says:

      I would LOVE to do another scene with Josh. Alas, he’s retired now, and is happily moving on to bigger and better things in his life. Im lucky to have worked with him as much as i did, and fortunate to count him and his partner Peter as among my very best friends.

  59. john says:

    Hi dirk! Tha

  60. john says:

    Hi dirk! Thank you very much for the answer!

  61. john says:

    Though I’m still figuring things out and I’ll probably ask you some more questions that might push a button as you expressed it. .. :) but only because I’m trying as i said before to figure things out. …
    Have a great day (or night, not sure. ..)

  62. Robert says:

    German
    English

    Hallo Dirk,

    vielleicht sprichst Du deutsch. Dein Vorname klingt danach. Anbei ein Gruß aus Deutschland für Dich :-) Ich habe heute gesehen, wie virtuos Du Klavier spielen kannst. Dazu fällt mir nur eins ein: Atemberaubend!

    Wann bist Du mal wieder in Deutschland? Ich kann es kaum erwarten, den schönen Mann mit Ausstrahlung und so wunderbarer Allgemeinbildung kennenzulernen, sofern Du Zeit und Lust hast.

    Schönen Sonntag Dir noch und einen guten Start in die neue Woche!

    Gruß von der anderen Seite des Atlantiks,
    Robert

    Hello Dirk,

    You might speak German. Your Christian name sounds at least like you probably do. Enclosed my greetings to you from Germany :-) Today I watched a clip and was fascinated with how much virtuosity you are playing the piano. I had just one thought: Stunning!

    When are you back in Germany? I can’t wait to get to know that charismatic handsome man – with such an impressive educational background – in person! … In case you have the time and intention.

    Have a great remaining Sunday and a good start into the new week!

    Cheers from the other side of the pond,
    Robert

  63. ruzam says:

    I’ve noticed that you wear logger boots in a majority of your films and photos. They’re my favorite form of footwear so I thoroughly enjoy seeing them on you. Have you been “attached” to them all your adult life?

    R

  64. Tom Hahn says:

    Yes, you are a very sexy man and love those videos….BUT, I love your music as much…seriously. Are there recordings to down load somewhere. I want more…and yes, I will continue to fantasize over the videos…And, love Jesse’s blog, too!

    I am Toptomm27 on Recon

    All the best,

    Tom

  65. brent says:

    I recently viewed the iconmale dvd entitled ” daddy’s big boy ”, in which you appear in the first scene.
    Your performance was good, although it seems that you have more passion for men closer to your own age instead of the younger person in this scene.
    Also, it was a pleasure to view you particularly in this scene since you did not keep yelling ” fuckm yeah” as well as hearing your laugh.
    Thanks for giving another good performance., but stick with mature men and avoid twinks.

  66. Allen Herndon says:

    hey Dirk,
    I have been introduced to your work via men.com,, all I can say is WOW! without a doubt the hottest, sexiest man on that site,, you got it all man, brains, great sexy body,, sensual lips, handsome face,, your bf is one lucky guy! Keep up the good work, stay safe,,, look forward to stroking to some of your hot hot scenes in the future….

  67. Jim hampton says:

    Hey dirk! Will you be going to Folsom this year. Is so, whose booth. Any chance you’ll make an appearance at the no hill! (With messy – hot)

  68. Giò says:

    Hi mr. Caber, I’m an italian professional harpist. I really appreciate your music and it’s been a very nice surprise discover that after a great personality in porn you also have this great musical skills. Something in your compositions remainds me to an “internal order” that resonate in my musical taste. I wonder if maybe you wrote something for harp (solo or with other instruments) or maybe the possibility to write it. Thanks for your attention and for your music. Giò.

  69. sumon says:

    dear dirk,

    this is my second mail to u. i hv g8 crush on u. u r my dream man, i like ur soft porn movies. ur hot hairy body drive me crazy. every time i think about u. i have one crazy wish that i want to do sex with u. muahhhhh i love u dirk. i love u.

  70. Alex says:

    I have enjoyed your work on the internet and I am glad that I chose to look at your actual website to realize that you are a classical musician! How cool and well rounded is that!? Too bad you don’t live in my area, because I could use an accompanist for my groups that I conduct! :) Thank you for also being educated in your approach to many of life’s experiences that you capture in your blog :) Yay for well rounded Adult Industry Stars :)

  71. Kyle Henning says:

    Hi Mr. Caber,

    I hav always been an admirer of your video work, and I have recently came across your work as a classical composer! As it happens, I am just finishing my Master Degree of Music at Northwestern University in Flute. I recently came across your composition for Flute and Piano and fell in love! I would love to purchase a copy from you and perhaps perform it in the up coming National Flute Association Convention in San Diego in 2016? I have plenty of recordings to validate my credentials. Please do not hesitate to contact me at my email address!

    Kyle

  72. deke says:

    So today I went to my first Pride parade in NYC, then a weird thing happened I am sure I saw you in the marching band. I was looking so long at the person (you) that I forgot to take a picture. Then you looked straight at me, I was like ‘no way’ and almost simultaneously you wink at me. So now that was the greatest moment of the year.

    • Dirk says:

      I remember you. You kept smiling like “I think I know who you are.” And that kinda tickles me… Glad it was a fun day for you!

  73. Ron Sapp says:

    Dirk -

    Just wanna say i’m very impressed with you.I enjoy reading your posts,laughing and agreeing with you.Your observations are very apt,and your personality comes thru as very sincere.Thank you for some good reads & good eye candy.Wishing you good luck in the chapters of your life.

  74. Dirk says:

    Dean– Go to my FB page (Facebook.com/DirkCaber) and send me a PM there.

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