About this Blog

Welcome.

I wasn’t going to be another porn blogger who merely reposted reviews and nekkid pics; there are a world of guys already out there who do that, and do it better than I would. However, after ages of attempted gangpressings to get me to join the blogosphere, I’m capitulating. This is largely in observance of three related events.

The first and most distant is that about eight years ago after a rough breakup I hooked up with a sexy daddy in New York City who goes by the handle JoeyRope; he was the first man to give me my first taste of kinkier sex, S/M in general, and bondage by a man who knows what he’s doing. I was hooked. He connected me with GMSMA (Gay Men’s S/M Association, sadly now defunct), which offered classes and tutorings and experiences; I learned from the best in NYC, and I started making connections and friends nationwide, learning all the time. That autumn JoeyRope and his partner invited me to Berlin to Folsom Europe with them, my first “leather” event; friends were made, experiences had, things learned, new horizons seen, and I knew that I’d found an aspect of my life that was supposed to be a part of me.

The second is that it was roughly two years ago that one of these friends, Paul Wilde at Titan, after many months of saying that Titan was looking for dom tops with real S/M skills and looked the part convinced me to give porn a try. I agreed, figuring they might hire me for one or two; the studio would find someone younger, leaner, more hung, something… and that would be that. And I’d have been fine with that, actually. However, after making nine films with Titan alone (and two more forthcoming, plus five with Michael Lucas, one with Raging Stallion, and various online scenes…), it’s really hit home that this is going to be a happy part of my life for a while, that I’m really enjoying the work I’m doing here, that I’ve made some great close friends, that it’s given me some new motivation and confidence in my outside-the-studio life.

The third and most immediately palpable is that about six months ago while working at the Titan booth at Folsom I met one of my colleagues, a truly amazing man whose huge heart, monstrous cock, and amazingly devious filthy mind I’m just head over heels (okay, more often heels over head) in love with. Jesse Jackman has ever since rocked my world and wrecked my prostate (at least twice a day on average when we’re together — yeah, I keep going back for more!), and I hope and expect that that’ll continue for decades to come.

Because of these I’ve been thinking more about what being in porn has brought to my life, and I’m realizing that I may indeed have something novel and individual to contribute to the babel-dialogue going on out there. Maybe someone might even read it, LOL.That doesn’t mean for a minute I’m going to be above posting hot photos or encouraging you to check out new releases or (maybe) posting some of our personal home movies. If the interspersed rants, bits of half-thought-out philosophy, puns, news, or links to the bizarre music I love don’t interest you, do what you would with any porn during the talky bits: hit fast forward. I’ll be the first to say I can’t expect myself to be any better a blogger than I am an actor, LOL. Trust me, it’s never long before all topics revert back around to hot men and deep intense fucking!

And guys, feel free to respond to anything I post here. I love it when I push a guy’s buttons and he pushes back!

Welcome to the official Dirk Caber blog. Should be a wild ride!

37 comments

  1. frank says:

    Hello Mr. Caber:
    I have enjoyed your appearances in the dvds.

    I would like to praise you in the two scenes in the Titan dvd entitled
    ” Jury Duty”. The pairing of you and Roman Wright was very intense,
    passionate and erotic. I could really see what passion both of you had
    with each other.

    I also like the fact that you don’t shave your body hair. That is an excellent
    trait and I hope you maintain the hair. It’s a complete turnon to see a hairy
    and masculine man, in comparison to a smooth and young twink.

    Thanks again for providing excellent performances in your films. I look
    forward to viewing future projects. By the way, could you please keep me
    posted on your future films?

    Thank you,

    Frank
    email address:
    manfromdm2@yahoo.com

  2. Mark says:

    I just had visited with an old NYC friend of mine, John L., who mentioned walking past Kink.com today and thinking of you. He told me about your dual careers, so naturally I had to look you up, and you are indeed as handsome as he said. And, from what I’ve read so far of your blog, as intelligent – always a heady combination!

  3. Angel says:

    Felicitaciones por tan excelente actuacion en sus peliculas y videos….realmente los disfruto…para usted Sr. Caber, le deseo el mayor de los exitos en su carrera.

    Abrazos desde Venezuela,

    Angel

  4. Dirk says:

    Hot Greeting from German!

  5. tobi says:

    Dirk, reading your blog and listening to your comments in the clips i consider you a very genuine, open guy, a very human and intelligent person. Thanks for bein’ here in contact with us on www

  6. Bryan says:

    Dear Dirk,

    I’ve only recently discovered your blog, but I’m a fan of your work, and your positive portrayal within whatever role you assume in your sexual escapades on film. You take pride in what you do, and that comes through so vividly!

    I have to admit, though, that I particularly enjoyed your scene for BoundJocks, as you were bound, helpless, nipples clamped, balls stretched, and hard as a rock – just as I want you in my fantasy! LOL The only thing that would have made that scene hotter would have been “mystery hands” (an unseen figure except for the hands) stimulating your erogenous zones, making you ache to cum, but delaying that outcome, prolonging your ecstasy, and allowing all those watching to drink in your masculine energy and potency. That shoot certainly got my juices flowing!

    So thank you, again, for being the man you are, and allowing us to share in your sexuality.

    Cheers,

    Bryan

  7. Jared says:

    Hi, Dirk. Just discovered your blog and several more films with which I had not been familiar. HOT! And what makes you even hotter is your lucid, heartfelt, thoughtful blog. Your most recent post on how you transformed yourself, inside and outside, to become who you are today was simultaneously provocative and inspirational. Thank you. Jared

  8. RenanPoA says:

    Love Your scenes And have a good surprise about Your Life. Congratulations !

  9. I just read your bio and love it! As well as your Energy, and you are such a lovely person. Thanks for a great blog. I look forward to catching up on older posts.

  10. mike says:

    In recently viewing the Titan dvd in which you are featured in a scene with
    Jesse Jackman, I found it to be very passionate. Both of you certainly displayed
    your intensity and chemistry.
    Question: I seem to observe that in the majority of your films, that you often
    let out with constant bursts of laughter during your scenes with your partners.
    It’s too bad that this happens, as it is a detriment.
    Other than that, your scenes in your films have been exceptional. It would be
    great to see you paired with Brad Kalvo and Allen Silver.

  11. ²marc says:

    dirk …
    jesus you are the man of my dreams ! haha a guy can dream can’t I … :)
    already have a great “dirk caber dvd and photo collection” … you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it !
    I have a big favour to ask … I used to be a swimmer and got paralised because of a diving accident so live goes in in a wheelchair :) but don’t worry even in a wheelchair live can be great !
    my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign …
    can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day !
    have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha
    all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future !
    x marc

  12. marc says:

    dirk …
    you are the man of my dreams ! haha a guy can dream can’t I … :)
    already have a great “dirk caber dvd and photo collection” … you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it !
    I have a big favour to ask …
    my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign …
    can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day !
    have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha
    all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future !
    x marc

  13. marc says:

    dirk … we mailed in the past and I was not very kind to you … was going throug a very hard period in my life anbd got mad at everything and everyone, is not an excuse to make me look good again but is it’s true and honest … due to an accident I have to spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair … ring a bell ? … I do appologize for that … I was wrong, very very wrong ! hope you except my sorry ! perhaps you do not even remember but if you do … please forgive me ! really hope to add your signed photo’s to my collection and if you do not want to have any further contact with me than I understand and I will reamin a very big fan of you ! all the best, lots of succes and I hope to hear fgrolm you afterall … x marc

  14. marc says:

    dirk … you are the man of my dreams ! haha a guy can dream can’t I … already have a great “dirk caber dvd and photo collection” … you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it ! I have a big favour to ask … my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign … can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day ! have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future ! x marc

  15. marc says:

    dirk … we mailed in the past and I was not very kind to you … was going throug a very hard period in my life anbd got mad at everything and everyone, is not an excuse to make me look good again but is it’s true and honest … due to an accident I have to spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair … ring a bell ? … I do appologize for that … I was wrong, very very wrong ! hope you except my sorry ! perhaps you do not even remember but if you do … please forgive me ! really hope to add your signed photo’s to my collection and if you do not want to have any further contact with me than I understand and I will reamin a very big fan of you ! you’re movies are always very passionate, hot and beautifull photographed and every movie is different, very versatile … suited, leather, countrystyle, sports … love it ! I have a big favour to ask … my question to you : it became a hoby of mine to collect signed photo’s of my favorite male pornstars and since I haved the biggest dvd colelction of you your signed pics would be the chery on the cake … have tried to contact you via all different kind of ways … facebook, lucas, titan, colt … no luck so far in finding an address or PO Box where I can send some of my favorite photo’s to for you to sign … can you please let me know how to contactg you or your agent ? that would really make my day ! have quit a collection already : angelo marconi, reese rideout, arpad miklos, Jeremy walker, joel evan, D.O., Paddy O’Brian, trenton Ducati, adam killian, tom judson, cody Cummings … so dirk, you have my email so I really hope to hear from you via this way … could this be a dream come true ? hahaha all the best for now, a big hug and lots of succes in the future ! x marc

  16. Keith Brooker says:

    Hi Jesse

    You sent me a message in the past 2 days, but while I was reading it in bed, I must have hit the wrong key, as it disappeared. Try as I might, I can’t find it again. It related to my observation that it seems impossible on Facebook, to post you a Friends Request, but also that I enjoyed your performance at the Eagle, London several weeks ago.

    Keith

  17. Fred Nutter says:

    I kept noticing you on the web. I find you even more exciting now I know you play the ophicleide! Perhaps you should persuade one of the studios to make a porn musical. Would be better if you played slide trombone.

  18. Rob says:

    I think we might have met at a GMSMA or CHC function.
    I like seeing your work but for a less than usual reason. It was your first Kink video when you torturing the bottom’s tit’s. You had your foot against his chest. You have this casual looking sadistic smile that told me that you have bottom experience and know just how to make that experience work to fuck a guy over.

    I hope I meet you again someday.

    Rob

  19. David says:

    Hi Dirk! I admire your comments and thoughts in life … I congratulate you for the great person you are .. I hope you never give up, and you can go ahead and be successful in your life … I love you so much Dirk, you’re a beautiful person … Greetings from Argentina! =)

  20. AJ says:

    Hey Dirk,
    Damn Skippy, My husband and I have spilled so much seed watching your work.!!! Thank you. What I like most, and that makes you different, is that hot smile of yours.!!! No matter how intense the scene is, and they are intense, you look like you’re having such a good time. Giving it or taking it you let the pleasure shine through. Keep up the good work. AJ

  21. Rodney says:

    Only met the leather and bear community a couple summers ago after the end of a 13 year relationship to the male co-parent of our two children. LOVE what I am learning and seeing, the camaraderie of it all. Great guys and enjoying the sweat, cum and piss of our community.

    Also, I see that it does not define us. We are so much more than our fetish and fur.

    I am enjoying your blog, especially the new post about your musical background. Thank you for sharing.

  22. Will says:

    Dear Dirk,

    I am a new fan. I especially like your Bound videos. I hope you do more. I would like to see Van and his crew sounding you or using electricity.
    I am 61 years old and a few months ago the love of my life Tommy ( who was 41) committed suicide.
    You have taken my mind off my sorrow. Watching you is very enjoyable to me.
    You and Jesse are very lucky to have each other.
    I enjoyed the new blog listing about the music.

    Thank you again,

    WILL XOXOX

  23. Jeremy Barcan says:

    I enjoyed reading your comments about Samuel Barber. I admire his music a lot. Being an opera fan, I am particularly drawn to his opera “Vanessa” which is as veiled gay story when you come to think about it.

    Generally speaking, what would American classical music look like without all of its 20th century gay composers and musicians; Bernstein, Copland, Barber, Menotti, Corlgliano, Adamo, Tilson-Thomas, Cole Porter, Sondheim, to name but the most famous of them.

    I hope to read on your blog more about your thoughts on the classical (and popular) music scene.

    It is so wonderful to know that you are more than just another gorgeous face and body and that your mind and soul can be in as a great a shape as your body is.

  24. Noor says:

    Hi Dirk,
    Just a line to say that I recently saw a scene that you did with Tony Orion.
    HOT!! – Absolutely HOT!!

  25. LeechyNUT Haven *yes, real name says:

    I haven’t seen any of your movies. Yet. From what I have viewed – you fit the bill quite nicely, as to my preferences, etc. Love the fact that you laugh a lot during shooting – showing you’re having a nice time! (love that, to reiterate LOL). I’m interested in your music – can’t seem to find a link to stuff you’ve authored. Yet. Thanks for your work – look forward to seeing you (uh) in the movies, magazines and media digest able. Thanks for your words – a true joy to behold, given past run-ins with other *stars*, those sadly bereft of genuine thoughts/full of self-aggrandizing witless promotion.
    Again, thank you. To shake your hand t’would be honored. To shake anything else t’would be a surprise. LOL
    L.H.

  26. Albert says:

    Mr. Caber, I have a crush on you. :) I love your soft sex videos and I love you.

    Had to say it. :) Any response from you will make me very happy!

  27. Hans says:

    Dear Dirk,

    as all others says it before: You are simply great! In more than just one way ;-)
    I really enjoy every video with you.
    I was wondering if i may ask you something.
    In my opinion you have absolutely the most perfect chest/soulder i haveever seen :-)
    So here’s my question:
    What do you do for workout?
    I work hard on my body and hopefully – somedays – i look more like you ;-)

    Big greetiings from germany,
    Hans

  28. HS says:

    Hi, I’m your fun and have bought your dozens of clips.
    Your tickled scene in Men On Edges.com is perfect, the best I’ve ever!!

    I really wanna your naked x-bound merciless tickled scene hopefully after cum-shot!
    I really your tickled scene again, that’s my dream

  29. ben says:

    I love your big smile as you fuck the big guys.

  30. greg says:

    Your performance and appearance in the movie ‘Hung Jury’ was your very best.
    You looked clean shaven and appealing. Then, your concurrent dvds slowly
    showed a somewhat disappointing decline in your appearance, that being
    scruffy and unkempt. And, your laughter in your sex scenes is very annoying
    and unnecessary.
    These are just my own opinions, providing constructive suggestions for your
    future appearances., as it is no longer a pleasure watching you.

    • Dirk says:

      Always great to have feedback. I know Jury Duty (not “Hung Jury”, as good a title as that might have been as well) is a popular film with many of my fans, but consensus on my appearance is that I should keep the beard, and for every comment I receive complaining about my laugh or my vocalizations, I have dozens who appreciate and find hot my vocal expressions of how much fun I’m actually having. If the beard didn’t have a business-confirmed appeal, directors would ask me to shave (as they did for Jury Duty) or studios wouldn’t continue to hire me; if the laughter was a problem, directors have no difficulty asking stars to refrain, and there are editors in post-production whose job is to scrub out undesirable noises (and there are lots that happen on set beyond my chortling). This is why there are hundreds of porn stars out there of all builds and behaviors; different strokes for different folks. That my “daddyish” appearance doesn’t appeal to you doesn’t indicate a decline in my skills or personal physical maintenance, but simply that your tastes follow a different vein.

  31. Carl Mayfield says:

    Dear Dirk, First let me start by saying I find you to be the most interesting and talented man in the adult film industry. Thank you for the countless hours of entertainment, fantasy and training your talents bring. You Dirk, beyond a doubt are the sexiest man making films today. I as many would love to know more about you and what makes you tic! Thank you and may you continue to find success and may your personal love relationship grow and prosper …. Blessings …Carl

  32. alternat says:

    i simply admire you Dirk :)

  33. Victor says:

    Several weeks ago your hubby shared a link to one of your musical pieces (Ecologue No.6) and it was gorgeous! I think my accompanist would really enjoy it, even just to play for herself. Plus,the poor woman has spent months rehearsing showtunes with me, she needs a break.
    Is there any way to get the sheet music for that piece? Do you sell sheet music?
    Victor

    • Dirk says:

      Eclogue #6 is still only in manuscript; I’ve never engraved it. I’ve also never made a piano transcription; it only exists as a chamber orchestra work. How’s your friend’s ability to read orchestra scores at the keyboard?

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