I have to reproduce this here, because if I copied it out by hand, nobody would believe a gay man actually came up with this humbug:

This was not sent to me on Grindr, but to an acquaintance.  Some of these notions are just silly, but I’ve been googling the more outlandish allegations mentioned for the last hour and a half, and I cannot figure out where “Prince” even begins to get these ideas from.  There’s some misinformation about PrEP out there, some about the efficacy of it, much about the supposed morality of anyone who would be taking it, and there are websites that perpetuate those lies, but these slanders I can’t even find a source for.

Other than the completely made-up bullshit, he ascribes to Truvada adipose wasting; this was true of far older medications which saved the lives of thousands a few decades ago, but which we don’t use any more.  He accuses drug companies not of gross misinformation, but absolute lies, something the FDA wouldn’t stand for, and which our experience with so many thousands of HIV-positive gay men who have been taking Truvada and Truvada-based therapies in some cases for over ten years will simply vouch against.  And finally, that last text says it all: the writer of these texts is heartless.

Know the facts.  Check out these sites and resources:

• http://www.whatisprep.org/
• http://aids.about.com/od/hivpreventionquestions/a/The-Facts-About-Hiv-Pre-exposure-Prophylaxis-prep.htm
• http://myprepexperience.blogspot.com/
• http://marksking.com/my-fabulous-disease/the-sound-and-fury-of-the-prep-debate-and-the-facts-to-win-it/

And an awesome Facebook page,

• http://www.facebook.com/groups/PrEPFacts/

Many of us are on PrEP, not out of any rampant fear of infection, not out of any supposed inclination to whore ourselves out irresponsibly, and not really out of any sort of political solidarity with the rest of the intelligent gay community (though if you’re smart, you’ve at least considered the possibility of PrEP!).  We do it out of love for each other and so that we keep each other as safe and healthy as possible.  We use it as one more tool of many to contain the spread of the infection among our friends and loved ones with whom we curl up.  We pornstars do it to help keep the studios we work with remain safe places where THIS doesn’t happen.  We all do it for the better well-being of our community and in the hopes that by reducing the number of new infections we do to HIV what vaccination did to Smallpox in the 1960′s.

This catalog of lies at least fell on the ears of someone who recognized them as just that, lies.  It’s possible there are still many of us not yet so versed.  Please, guys, if you ever see anyone spouting this bullshit, call them out on it.  They need to know better, and this contagion of misinformation needs to be contained just as much as the infection itself.  It is, after all, far more dangerous; HIV is still a nuisance, if not the threat it was even ten years ago.  Lies like these can jeopardize lives, even ruin lives, if not end them.

 

So this happened this morning. My Facebook profile has been unpublished for violating the terms of use.

Now, nothing on that page hasn’t been published elsewhere on FB in an as-yet unmolested form. My posts in the past eight months have been sporadic at best, but not one has actually even shown me anything more than shirtless. And as nice as it is to have enthusiastic fans, I’ve still been diligent about removing pics and content you all occasionally post which don’t quite agree with Facebook’s standards. My profile is expressly set to exclude minors from seeing it. So here’s Facebook’s explanation for the removal:

My best guess is that this is the same purge that is affecting DJ’s and drag queens with Facebook pages. Because we are often not using our legal names, Facebook is deeming us fake or somehow duplicitous, and removing us accordingly.

I’d be curious to know, though, knowing Facebook’s history of homophobic bias. Can anyone tell me that this is affecting performers across the full sexual spectrum? Are Hollywood actors whose stage names are not their actual real names being removed as well? Are lady DJ’s being hit? Anyone know anything?

Men.com has been SOOO generous with me these last several months.  The movie Stepfather’s Secret with Johnny Rapid, Trevor Spade, and Scott Harbor has been a runaway hit, to the point that there’s possibly a sequel in the works–watch this space!  Meanwhile however, as you guys seem to enjoy it, MEN has been using me more; in the past several days two more films came out.

The first is Neighbors, in which the unbelievably sexy Billy Santoro and I are a long-term couple who own an apartment building, and are seduced by our two new tenants, Dylan Drive and Trevor Spade.  Billy’s just awesome to work with and is becoming an easy friend.  This is my second film with him; the first was a scene for BoundGods.com; just the photos of Billy tied spread-eagle give me masturbation material for months…  Check out the really HOT way (not kidding) I make myself cum at the end of the scene, too!  Anyway, Neighbors has four scenes, of which Billy and I share one already released, and then there’s one more with Dylan which should be released in the next few days.

 

The other MEN.com release is Men for Sale.  I’m only in the third scene, in which I capture undercover cops Jarec Wentworth and Tom Faulk and press them into a black market sex slave ring.  Seems I can’t get enough of my own two captives…  Literally.  Like, both of them at the same time.

Yes, that’s my ass, with TWO large cocks in it at the same time.  Any good bottom knows that pulling off a double penetration takes some serious relaxation, and I’m tight to begin with!  The stars were in just the right alignment, and Jarec and Tom were easy to work with (that helps, really, it does)…  The further challenge is that it’s hard enough just to film penetration between two guys sometimes; the actors have to get close enough to each other to be able to fuck effectively, but they also have to stay far enough apart so that the cameraman can get both some natural-looking light in there and also be able to see with the camera.  If your actors tend to be more muscular and have thicker legs and butts, it only gets more challenging.  Now throw in an an third body and pair of legs…  and you start to see why DP’s are not frequent occurrences in porn.  They’re simply hard to capture.That said, I’m up for attempting another sometime here.  Jesse’s got a dick for it, if it’s done in a certain position to accommodate that awesome curve of his.  Any votes for who our third should be?

A few more photos…

And finally, there’s another movie somewhere in the editing room at MEN which should be out any day now, working with Colby Keller and Luke Adams.  Again, watch this spot!

You may or may not have noticed how long it’s been since my last post.  There’ve been two reasons–  One having to do with a sizeable music project I’ve been swamped with, which I’ll tell you about shortly, but more problematic has been that any time I’ve gone to log on and write, I’ve been greeted by a blank white screen.  My technical skills are not nonexistant, but fixing this proved beyond me.  Jesse tried his best to figure it out, but he’s also been busy with a few other things lately.

So THANK YOU to Titan director Jasun Mark, who stepped in and knew where in the administrative code something was wrong and how to fix it.  Asked how I can make it up to him, he answered “How about actually writing some blog posts?”

I stand rebuked.  More coming soon.  Thanks again, Jasun!

 

So I’ve starred in the series Stepfather’s Secret at Men.com. Costarring the very sexy men Johnny Rapid, Trevor Spade, and Scott Harbor, it’s been a huge hit. I’m getting a TON of positive feedback, including a lot of people who speak of this exact scenario being one of their greatest fantasies.

And I also get the occasional person who finds this content absolutely abhorrent. I’ll start out by saying that there are indeed guys out there who were molested in their formative years; of course I completely understand why this might push a big red button for them. But I’m also getting a little trickle of folk who object because they feel that somehow this material makes the gay world look bad.

Answering those objections directly, I am going to point out that in the film Men.com was very careful in scripting and producing these scenes to make these salient points very clear:

• 1. All the stepsons are older than 18. This makes them older than the legal age of consent. It goes without saying, legally, that of course all actors are well above the age of 18 as well. There is no representation, actual or implied, of statutory rape in this movie.

• 2. The sons are all adopted children of my character’s wife; this is made quite clear in her opening conversation in the first scene. As she explains, they are in fact not the stepfather’s adopted children. They are also unrelated to each other. Hence there is no incest depicted, implied or actual.

• 3. All the sons are active and willing participants in the sex. It would be unrealistic to expect the sons to be the instigators, but the scenes start only with the stepfather as the willing facilitator, not the active provocateur. There is no rape or any form of coerced participation shown or implied in these scenes.

Some still object to the age difference. Let’s presume the stepfather is around 40 (as am I) and the sons are between 21 and 25; we’d be looking at a 15 to 20 year age difference. Why is this age difference so objectionable between these age groups when a 30 year old and a 50 year old might fuck with impunity? If you’d tell me a 21 year old is still too immature to know what he’s doing sexually, then why do we place the age of consent at 18? And if a 21 year old is old enough to drive a car, to vote, to drink, and to fight for our country, how the hell is he too young to make his own decisions about his sexuality?

I appreciate the need some people feel to conform to what the straight world might expect of us behaviorally. I also however feel that, as unreasonable as it is for a few straight folk to think that all gay men are sexual predators and rapists out to “convert” the wholesome straight boy (stepson, altar boy, what have you) to a sad life of unfulfilling debauchery, it’s just as unreasonable to think that straight folk set some sort of moral bar. The straight world has been telling us for decades, nay centuries, that we’re perverted and broken and sinful. Some of us are buying into this accusation, and seem to think that we need to toe someone else’s lines of behavior to “prove” ourselves to a populace which might never come around anyway. To suggest that we are now able to convince a minority of stuck-in-the-mud heterosexuals that we’re “just as good as they are” is to suggest that in fact we were foul, uncouth, and unclean in previous generations. And looking at how ingrained into history homosexuals have been, in positions of power, culture, and thought, I’m just not buying that.

The other disturbing thing I note in these responses is a kneejerk need to pass judgement. In this way, we are in fact following exactly the example of those judgemental straight folk who are so fast to tell us what inhuman slime we are. Just as they act based on information that has no source in truth or on no knowledge of any of us personally, similarly we’re fast to come to a negative opinion of a mere porn movie based on a presumption of what it might mean, and that of the darkest interpretation possible. And this doesn’t just happen around this video; it’s a very human tendency. I’m just amazed that we as gay men, having been the brunt of exactly that judgementalism for so long, are so ready to jump the moral gun ourselves. Really, shouldn’t we of all people be better than that?

In realizing on video a fantasy, does anyone really think that the studio would go out of their way to deliberately or negligently portray the corruption of a minor? Even studios which depict S/M and sex in bondage go well out of their way to provide some means of showing that the exchange was in fact consensual. Sex between differently-aged partners is commonplace in gay porn these days, “daddy” being a perhaps increasingly potent fantasy these days. If you want to get upset about something, let’s look at the treatment of our brothers and sisters in Russia, in Africa, in our own christian communities. If you need to level your energies at something we gay men do, rail at unsafe sex practices that keep STI’s a constant threat among us. Take aim at the drug abuse that probably underlies so much of that unsafe sex. Get upset about something which with some reading and understanding you can actually speak intelligently about, instead of something about which we’ve only made an uneducated guess. If we want respect from the heterosexual community, from anyone, or hell, even just from ourselves, that seems a much stronger means of accomplishing it.